"I just could not meet her," he recalled. "I had this pit in my stomach. I knew she had found out."
When Mr. Saynt finally replied, his mother could hardly speak between strings. "I will never show it to your father!" She said.
The shocked mother, a practicing Jehovah's Witness, looks at an online article about her 35-year-old son, January 3, 2018 – and how he drives one of New York City's most exclusive thousand-year-old single clubs, NSFW (New Society for wellness).
"She was angry, hurt and worried that they would exclude me," said Saynt.
He had hidden his secrets – about his bisexuality and his free love style – from his religious family for years, but was relieved to be exposed.
"I felt it was time to get out and I did not want anything to stop me," he said.
Saynt started its elite-sex group, collecting weekly in a residential block in Williamsburg, a hip area in Brooklyn in 2015.
NSFW now has 700 members – all meet Mr. Saynet's criteria for attractive, successful, keen users of social media – with an average age of 28.
There are 300 more people on the waiting list and more than 9000 other applicants who did not cut.
Membership fee is a one time payment of $ US96, while each six party carries an additional price from $ US30 to $ US150.
Models, entrepreneurs, singers, actors, media staff, stylists and A-to-B celebrities make up the clientele.
"It's like the Soho House of Sex," said Mr Saynt, referring to the Swedish members, the only social club.
And it is far from his religious past.
Born Daniel Santiago at Albert Einstein Hospital in Bronx, Saynt grew up poor and was raised by Puerto Rican parents devoted to their religion.
He attended church every Sunday and woke up at 6 o'clock in the morning to spread the gospel door to die before school and spent 10 hours a week at the Bible study. 19659002] According to the principles of his religion, he did not celebrate birthdays or holidays, including Christmas.  "It's not just a religion, it's a way of life," said Mr. Saynt. "Your friends, family and all you interact with are all Jehovah's Witnesses."
But at the age of 13 he had his first sexual experience with another boy from the neighborhood.
"It was very confusing and scary to be in a belief that is so traditional in their approach to LGBT people," he said about the church who considers homosexuality for a punishable sin. "It really stinks you."
Saynt continued to search for interconnections with other men as well as women throughout the high school, "but always kept it quiet and private."
In 2001 against the wishes of his parents – wishing him to become a missionary – Mr. Saynt enrolled at Berkeley College in Midtown.
"When I was from home … I could be more of my own person," he said. He started experimenting, attending six parties and using Craigslist to join men and women. In 2004, he completed a degree in e-commerce and legally changed his surname to Saynt.
But he saved his true self again when he married his former wife in 2006 – and chose to keep her bisexuality and adventurous from her.
The two were married for six years before he came to Alexander, with whom he had founded a digital lifestyle marketing firm, and the two went their separate ways.
This time Mr. decided Saynt to make his passion for sex more than just a hobby.
"I was tired of selling shoes and handbags and beauty products that people do not need," he said about his fashion marketing days. "I wanted to sell things that make people happy, like sex."
Saynt began accepting NSFW applications by 2015. Potential members must answer a detailed questionnaire about their fantasies and preferences, submit images of themselves and provide links to their social media accounts.
"We are looking for people with a story to share," he said. "If you can not share a conversation with someone, you can not share a bed."
Mr Saynt and his trusted "advice" of five want people sending images of themselves with friends and at local hotspots. fun activities and travel world. Hateful political views, too few pictures or awkward close-ups are an automatic "No".
"If a guy uses and says," I just want sex with as many girls as possible ", it's not somebody we want here, says Mr. Saynt.
Attractiveness and skillful style are also great considerations.
"I use my bi [sexual] sense," he said. "Like, I want to connect them? Do I want this person to have sex next to me? If not, we will not accept them. "
" He's creating a big black book for himself, "said one of his NSFW employees.
Mr. Saynt and his club members believe high standards are what keeps sex girls sizzling.
"Being a hot woman, I do not want to fire everyone and I do not want anyone to believe they can fire me," said Lola Jean, 28, who works as sex teachers and is known in the sex clubs community as a wrestling dominatrix.
"On other parties, it's hard to be the hottest person in the room and get all this attention on you – but here everyone is hot so they all get it. "
About 60 percent of the members are couples in open relationships, and most are bisexual. The millennia say they are also happy to be among people who are not of an older generation.
" Sexclubs in New York has a sense of age while you're there and does not feel fresh and healthy, "said Mercedes Clark, 25, who works as a model.
Bacchanals – the largest of which take place in towns like House of Yes – celebrate themes ranging from BDSM and foot-fed workshops to caviar festivals, but all end up with little to no clothes and plenty of connectivity.
"Members dress in layers to allow different stages of nudity as night evolves," said Melissa Vitale, 25, a publicist. Sometimes there is a strict black black dress code that includes masks.
"It's an adult playground," said Mr. Saynt, who lives in West Village with his long-time boyfriend. an open relationship.
At Williamsburg Clubhouse The basement has six beds with mesh dividers between them. Red Christmas lights and lantern adorn each floor, and a big "XXX" marquee character greets people at the door. Pictures of tattooed models that hold pizza and hot dogs over their genitals, the walls. Black leather toy is on the screen for members to test.
Mr Saynt's marketing company, also known as NSFW, works with brands like Real Love Sex Dolls to market directly to club members by letting them test and buy discounted products. The partnerships, in turn, help finance the parties.
During a recent gathering, Mr. Saynt – working on his strained relationship with his parents – and 15 of his closest members met to celebrate his birthday.
It was a milestone he was never allowed to remind of growing up because of his religion.
But instead of shining candles every year, Saynt spent an intimate night among his like-minded friends.
"It's my way to make up for all the birthdays I did not have," he said.
Additional Reporting by Heather Hauswirth